DO YOU EXPERIENCE ANGER WITHOUT FULLY UNDERSTANDING WHY?
Have you ever felt uncontrollable anger? The kind of anger where you feel like just breaking something – but you don’t actually break anything, you just get angry enough to. It’s natural to get angry at times, after all it’s a part of being human. But like all other feelings, it’s important to be able to control it so that we do not hurt or harm neither ourselves nor other people. At worst, the consequences can be big. The thought of losing important people in one’s life because one struggles to control anger can be a very serious consequence. If you think that you are struggling with feelings like anger and do not feel that you are able to master it in a healthy way, it may be time to consider getting professional help.
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU NEED ANGER MANAGEMENT
Feeling anger at times is normal and natural. If you experience being exposed to an experienced injustice, betrayal or, for example, an offense, it is quite normal to react to this and feel angry. In such situations, it makes sense to safeguard your own self-respect, dignity with setting limits on what one accepts or not. The problem is when you lock in negative thinking patterns and feelings that, among other things, anger and you can’t go on. If this is starting to affect your health and your relationships with other people, then it may be helpful to seek professional psychological help.
Anger, if uncontrolled, can lead to various psychological but also physiological problems. It may lead to serious consequences in the long run with persistent anger issues over time. Lack of good coping strategies to cope with anger can lead to an increase in heartbeat and palpitation, higher temperature, etc. If persistent and over time feeling such a high intensity level regarding anger, then one can be exposed to developing diseases such as depression, high blood pressure and anxiety. It can also lower the functionality of the immune system.
Apart from these diseases, unmanaged anger can put good relationships to hard test and at worst, put relationships with other people at risk. Nobody wants to be with someone who always explodes or perceived as unpredictable and at worst, erratic, even over simple things.
CONTROLLING ANGER — BEFORE IT CONTROLS YOU
Although we would like it, we cannot really control situations that can make us angry. All we can do is to control our responses to it and control how we feel about the situation. Being angry is part of our genetic makeup, but it’s not normal to have fierce rage every time there’s a conflict, especially if it’s only a disagree with someone or feeling provoked.
In therapy, the psychologist will chart your problems with anger and help you understand it better. This will contribute to a better understanding of where all things come from, including which factors triggers it, and with healthy coping strategies to handle it. With the help of your psychologist, you will also explore other feelings that can be linked to anger like shame, embarrassment and fear.
Knowing what really activates anger is a big step towards dealing with it.
The goal of anger coping is to help you sort out your feelings and teach you how to express what you actually experience and feel less aggressive and how to react in a much more constructive way.
The acquisition of good coping strategies to regulate emotions is essential for success in relationships with other people and in life when conflicts arise and one is facing challenging ordeals and challenges